STREAM WITH HART
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Welcome to my alternative to social media: no politics, no pressure, no sales pitches.
Simply a place to scroll content intentionally designed with ease, good energy and everyday empowerment in mind.
I will be sharing my own thoughts, experiences and insights along with a variety of resources that I find of value.
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Why Would I Take That So Personally?
7/24/2026
You have told your spouse over and over your needs and they still don’t do what you’re asking. After so many disappointments you begin to take it personally. It can’t be that hard so they just must not really love me.
No matter how many times a coworker has been told, they keep doing things that just don’t make sense. After so many corrections you begin to take it personally. It isn’t that hard to follow directions so they just must not care about my directions.
Your adult child is making life so much harder than it needs to be. You offer advice and suggestions and they never follow them so you begin to take it personally. It’s not that hard to do things this way so they just must not respect me.
Be honest, how many times have you been in one or maybe even all of these situations. Telling yourself it must be you and that’s why they don’t do what makes sense. But more often than not, it actually has nothing to do with you.
We all have our own way of doing things.
Our own way of thinking about what’s in front of us.
Our own way of feeling about the situations we are facing.
Our own way of relating to others.
Our own way of communicating, connecting, making decisions, pacing ourselves, strategizing, being motivated and following through.
Our own way of processing and making sense of the world.
But it’s human nature to think that others should do things they way we would and when they don’t we often make it about us instead of them and take it personally which can lead to frustration, resentment, disconnect, possibly conflict and even relationship breakdowns.
However, when we truly know our own way of doing things best, understand our personal process and have learned what our behavior language comes across like, we have a better grasp of managing ourselves. And it opens us up to realizing that someone else’s way of doing things is not wrong just because it’s different.
Maybe you need your spouse to stop solving your problems and just commiserate with you but their process entails viewing being supportive as fixing and it just isn’t natural for them to feel someone else’s energy the way you would. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you, it just means they show it in a different way. When you understand their behavior language, you stop assuming the worst. Instead of questioning whether they love you, you begin appreciating that they simply show it differently.
Maybe you want your coworker to follow the same system over and over for each task but they are seeing a more efficient way of getting the job done. Just because they are trying something else doesn’t mean they are trying to be insubordinate or don’t care about your way of tackling the project. It just means consistency is boring for them especially when they thrive on finding new ways that will save time and maybe even money. Through the lens of behavior language, you no longer take it personally and get curious about their way of seeing things.
Maybe your need to help your adult child is based out of fear and your desire to prevent them from making mistakes but they have an innate trust in themselves and are fine with things not going right the first time because they learn best from taking action. Just because they don’t listen to how you are guiding them, it doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate your perspective. It just means self-assurance is at play and their way of learning is more about doing and experiencing themselves than from following someone else. With a better understanding of their behavior language, you stop making their choices about your worth as a parent. You can still offer guidance while respecting that they need to learn in their own way.
I will be discussing more about what this looks like in real life, with real examples and real discussions based on the real conversations we will be having at our next Make it Make Sense Live Tuesday 7/28 @ 7pm EST via Zoom. Grab your seat here!
Episode 1: Is It Personal or Just Their Process?
7/21/2026
Personal vs Process
I hope you enjoy this unedited, raw, authentic recording of my perspective on how we can mistakenly take so many things in life personally when actually it often has nothing to do with us. It is simply just the way someone else thinks, acts and relates reminding us once again that different isn’t wrong. Listen in, follow along on YouTube or Spotify, let me know your thoughts and please share with others. If something resonates with you come join us for the Make It Make Sense Live Behavior Language Conversation Tuesday July 28th 7-8:15 pm EST via Zoom so we can connect, explore further and learn from one another.
Enjoy!
Episode 0: The Accidental Episode That Started Everything
7/16/2026
Assuming vs Understanding
I hope you enjoy this unedited, raw, authentic recording of my perspective on the difference between assuming and understanding. Everything I do is based on the foundation of understanding, really understanding ourselves and one another and I have come to notice how many times we confuse assuming with understanding. Listen in, follow along on YouTube or Spotify and let me know your thoughts.
Enjoy!
Why Would I Accidentally Start a Podcast?
7/14/2026
Yes, you read that right, I accidentally started a podcast. I am one who tends to put the cart before the horse and to answer the question why would I do that, it actually fits perfectly with my personal process as most things we do will. I get an idea. I get very excited about the idea. I hope others will love the idea as much as I do so I immediately jump right in and put the idea into action. This is the best way I learn because when I get caught up in the nuances of it I tend to drop right down into overthinking and then I start comparing myself and that leads no where good. So I have learned that I would rather go and adjust as I go and see where it leads. Sometimes it’s exactly as I imagined. Other times, not so much. But either way there are lessons and growth along the way.
This is exactly what happened with Make It Make Sense Live: Behavior Language Conversations. Many of you know how I feel about posting on social media and my desire to talk with you not just to you which all lead to launching these Zoom conversations. But what I didn’t factor in is that I was once again putting the cart before the horse as far as you are concerned. I ASSUMED that you would be just as excited about it as I am, and maybe you are but if I were in your position I would want to know more about what I was getting into before hopping on the call myself.
Tonight was the first one and along with that hesitation came a technical glitch as well so it was just me. Instead of folding up my laptop and going home to a bowl of ice cream, I hit record and talked for an hour on the night’s topic: The Difference Between Assuming and Understanding Ourselves and Others. And next thing you know, I not only had a podcast episode, I had a solution to your hesitation. This way you get to watch or listen to (it will be available both on YouTube and Spotify) an introduction to the conversation that way you can come more prepared and have a better understanding of what we will be talking about.
Going forward, I will record on the 1st and 3rd Tuesdays posting the episodes Wednesday then we will still meet via Zoom for our live conversations on the 2nd and 4th Tuesdays to have a conversation with one another on the topic I presented. These will remain private. I will not be posting the recordings for your confidentiality. You will not only have a better idea of what will be discussed, you can come prepared if you want to ask questions, participate in the conversation or solely listen in to other people’s perspectives. I will only be facilitating, not presenting. And you can decide what the next week’s conversation will be centered around by submitting questions, situations or topics to explore.
And as a bonus, the last 15 minutes of the live, I will dedicate to one participant for a one to one conversation to dive in a bit deeper or broach a topic you didn’t want to share with the group.
I am even more excited about this in hopes it will serve you in a way that you find beneficial! Stay tuned. I will be sharing the episodes here on Stream with Hart as well, of course!
Why Would You Do That?
7/9/2026
After talking with others and experiencing it myself for years, I think one of the hardest questions to answer is why would you do that? This is often asked more out of judgment than curiosity and sometimes is even asked as an attack out of frustration or resentment.
One reason this is difficult to answer is clearly because it immediately puts us in defensive mode. And when that happens we tend to fall into rationalizing, justifying, over-explaining and seeking validation for just being ourselves. The example I last discussed is why do you need to keep talking about it, why do you tell everyone our business, why can’t you just let it go. The simple answer is because communicating often helps process and for some people it is cleansing. But when the Communication trait is lower in someone else’s personal process they don’t understand the need to hash it out verbally and externally because they process a different way.
But another reason this is difficult to answer is because we often don’t know ourselves how to put into words why we do what we do. We know there is a pattern to our behaviors but we don’t have the language to translate it to others and sometimes to even understand ourselves. This is when I often see the light bulbs go off in clients heads when we are discussing their personal process. I often hear “Oh, so this is why I feel the need to talk everything through with anyone who will listen in order for me to get over it.” And those answers don’t just come from the label or definition from one single trait, they stem from how several behavior traits blend and play off one another giving a much deeper meaning and therefore understanding to why you do what you do.
This knowledge is also beneficial in answering why do you do that because it is unbiased and objective. When I go through your personal process with you it is based on the results from a world-renowned assessment that ranks the 34 traits we all use but all use differently. In fact, no two people will ever have the same result in the entire world. This uniqueness is very cool on one hand but also can cause disconnects on the other because it is human nature to want, expect or think others should go about life the same way we do. But the fact is they are not meant to and if they are trying to, they are not being authentic and that will end up causing another set of problems down the road.
Speaking from experience, I spent so much of my life apologizing for my way of doing things or thinking I was wrong because I didn’t handle life the same way as others causing me to fall into the trap of not being able to answer why would you do that. But now that I have a clear understanding of my behavior language, I speak it clearly and unapologetically and I hope the same for you as well.
Why Do I Do That?
7/6/2026
If you go back to June 2026 in Stream with Hart you will notice a theme, Why do they do that? I started with that perspective because we often notice other people’s behaviors more than our own, especially when they leave us scratching our head with confusion or wanting to jump out of our skin with annoyance.
But this month I will be turning the focus to ourselves. Not to beat ourselves up and not to view through a critical lens, but to learn more about ourselves and discover how not just knowing but honoring our own personal process can help answer the many questions we pose when it comes to our behavior.
Such as:
Why am I not more confident?
Why do I struggle finding, keeping or enjoying relationships?
Why do my co-workers drive me nuts so much?
Why do I catch myself being judgmental?
Why am I unfulfilled at work?
Why do people annoy me?
Why is there so much resentment in my marriage even though we love each other?
Why don’t my kids do what I want them to?
The list goes on and on and in fact, I would love to hear and address the why questions you ask yourself.
Not only will I be guiding you to a deeper understanding here on Stream with Hart, I am now offering Make it Make Sense Live: Behavior Language Conversations every 2nd and 4th Tuesday from 7-8pm EST via zoom starting July 14th where we can discuss these and many more topics together.
Hope to connect with you there!
5 Years Later
7/3/2026
This summer marks five years since I walked away from my job at the middle school to pursue Feel Empowered Every Day full-time.
Five years.
Five years since I taught the class that confirmed this work was more than just an interest, it was something I felt called to do.
Five years since I figured out my next chapter in life after being a stay at home mom for 25 years.
Five years since I found the courage to record my first video, hit "post," and let people into my perspective. (Something I had spent the past vowing I would never do).
Five years since I realized that the concepts I was sharing weren't just helping others, they were continuing to transform my own life as well.
When I look back, I'm incredibly proud. Not because everything went according to plan. Not because my business has grown as quickly as I once hoped. But because I stayed true to the work.
If I'm honest, there are moments when I think, "After five years, I thought I'd be further along."
I think many of us have those thoughts when we pour ourselves into something that matters. We compare where we are to where we imagined we'd be and forget to notice just how far we've actually come. (Maximizer strength traits)
What encourages me is this:
My message hasn't changed.
The heart behind my work hasn't changed.
My desire to help people understand themselves and one another hasn't changed.
What has changed, or rather LIFE’d (an idea shared in my book) is me.
Over these past five years, I've continued learning that growth isn't only about becoming better at what you do. It's about becoming clearer about why you do it and staying true to how you do it.
When I first began, I focused heavily on the tools I used.
Today, I focus much more on the understanding they create.
The principles haven't changed. My perspective has deepened.
The conversations have become richer.
The way I communicate this work continues to evolve because I continue to evolve.
And I hope that never stops.
That's one of the beautiful things about dedicating yourself to meaningful work. The work shapes you just as much as you shape it.
So if you're in the middle of building something, a business, a career, a relationship, a dream, or simply a better version of yourself and it feels like you're moving slower than you hoped, don't mistake steady growth for lack of progress.
Sometimes the greatest success isn't found in arriving quickly.
It's found in becoming the kind of person who can sustain what you're building when it finally arrives.
Five years later, I'm still learning.
Still refining.
Still growing.
Still believing that understanding ourselves is one of the greatest gifts we can give the people around us.
And that makes me just as excited about the next five years as I was about the first.
July Invitation
7/1/2026
Instead of sharing a Book of the Month this July, I'd like to invite you somewhere a little more personal.
If you've ever found yourself struggling to make sense of your own or someone else’s behavior, I'd love for you to spend some time with me on my YouTube channel.
While my book lays the foundation, my videos bring these ideas to life through real conversations, everyday situations, and different perspectives. Rather than offering quick fixes or telling you what to think, I hope they encourage you to slow down, become curious, and shift your perspective regarding yourself and the people around you.
One of the things I've learned over the past five years is that understanding doesn't happen from memorizing information. It happens through observation, reflection, and seeing familiar situations through a different lens.
That's exactly what you'll find there.
Whether you've been following my work for years or you're just discovering it, I hope you'll join me. Watch a video that catches your attention. Leave a comment. Share your perspective. Ask a question. Pass onto others.
The best conversations don't happen because someone has all the answers.
They happen because we're willing to explore together.
I hope to see you there.
