Self Intelligence

The capacity to be aware of, understand, accept and embrace oneself for who they innately are and the ability to manage and feel empowered by how they do things best for themselves and in relation to others.

Principles

  • Everything in life is a relationship ~

    From your family, friends and co-workers to your interactions with acquaintances, strangers, even time, money, food, goals etc… Every one of those relationships is determined by the one you have with yourself.

  • There are 34 traits we all utilize in our everyday lives, but we all use them differently from one other ~

    The order of your traits will be unique to you. No two people on the entire planet will have the same results. Your personal Strengths order serve as your own process.

  • We all have our own unique way of going about life that is meant to be different from one another ~

    How we each do things best makes up our personal process that directs us authentically in the 4 main areas of life, relationships, work/school, health & wellness and belief in self.

  • Our Strengths process serves as the north star to the Self Intelligence Framework ~

    which is made up of the 5 cardinal points listed below that lead to self empowerment.

Learning to follow your GPS (Go-to Personal Strengths) is just the first step on your path to empowerment

Self Awareness ~

Most of us struggle with being truly self aware because we tend to look at ourselves through lenses that are tainted and smudged with other people’s opinions, expectations, previous experiences and social media pressures that cloud our vision. Knowing our Strengths order serves as an unbiased, objective clarity to self awareness. For example, I might not realize that Woo (Win others over) is actually a strength because I take for granted my ability to chat with strangers.

Self Understanding ~

Many who take the CliftonStrengths Assessment get caught up in the individual definitions of each trait/strength. To truly understand your process, it is imperative to learn your personalized meaning of how each strength shows up for you based on where other traits fall in your order. (This is what I provide for you) For example, the Communication strength will mean something a bit different if it’s surrounded by Executing Strengths vs Relationship Building Strengths.

Self Acceptance ~

It is easy to let the connotation of each trait’s label affect how you feel about it. Many get their results and are hung up on the name of the strength instead of the meaning playing into them as a whole, thinking your process would be better if you had different results. For example, having the Intellection strength low doesn’t mean you are not smart.

Self Embracement ~

Learning to accept your Strengths order sets you up to embrace your process. You lean into how you do things best with your head held high, your shoulders back and chest up. You feel a confidence in just being your authentic self that you may have never felt before. For example, if you have the Ideation strength high, you no longer feel shame about daydreaming up all kinds of exciting things because you know they will serve you well in some capacity.

Self Management ~

Now that you have a deeper understanding and acceptance of who you are and how you do things best, it is important to learn how your Strengths relate to others which is why we discuss the bridges and tunnels of each, giving you perspective on what to lean into and what to be mindful of in your interactions/relationships. For example, if you have the Command strength high, it will be frowned upon to walk in and take charge of situations that don’t warrant your help.

Self Empowerment ~

Too many of us spend our time swinging on the pendulum between feeling powerless by either coercion or even willingly (sometimes it’s just easier). Then we get frustrated by not feeling in control so we swing all the way over to the powerful side where we attempt to control everything and everyone else to feel a sense of autonomy. Neither benefit ourselves or those around us.

Becoming more Self Intelligent aids in living right in the middle enjoying the sweet spot of empowerment. When we are empowered, we ditch the control battles, reduce frustration and replace resentment with respect due to honoring our own and one another’s unique process in living life authentically.

Continue on the journey by strengthening relationships through learning other people’s unique process too

HERE’S WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY:

  • "Working with Elle to determine and activate my strengths was an extremely rewarding experience. She put so much time, love and energy into our session and it showed. I felt seen and understood. The wisdom she helped me uncover has had a lasting impact in my life. I would recommend working with Elle to anyone who is ready to grow and learn more about how they can better show up in the world."

    Ginger M.

  • "How can you possibly understand this much about me so quickly? EVERYONE NEEDS TO DO THIS!"

    Sarah G.

  • "After my youngest son worked with Elle, I felt like he had been lifted up and was more confident. Her emotional intelligence specialty, innate ability to understand and translate paired with her incredible gift to connect is highly needed and beneficial especially for our teens who need some extra help developing positive mindsets to handle everyday challenges."

    Janelle C.